I thought of this article when I was listening to someone talk mean about me, to someone else, in front of me, and then have the audacity to turn to me and say "you might have not noticed,but we were talking about you". Now normally I would get mad at such kind of situations, but in this particular situation I was too lazy and also the thought of giving those people the attention was not necessary.
So, I just ignored them and walked away.
I know I shouldn't have walked away, but I was too lazy to give them a reaction or listen to more rubbish from their blabbering mouths.
Also another reason for me writing this is, that today I was speaking to my friend about this girl who keeps telling everyone what to do, what not to do, how everyone looks, how no one is better than her. It is so irritating to listen to all this, especially when someone keeps talking on and on about themselves and does not give the other person a chance to speak. So as I was talking to my friend we kept discussing the other girl's awful manner of living, while doing so I realized that we were giving her more importance than she deserved.
So here's how you can deal with haters.
Step 1: stop listening to them.
There is this quote "what people say about you, is none of your business". This is so true because it happens so many times that we tend to listen to our haters, bout what the say, we get so distracted from the real world because of them, we want to know everything they say about us, and not only this, we also want to know what they say about everybody else.
Step 2 : stop talking to them.
It might sound pretty dumb, but yes, you should stop speaking to your haters. Not only does this make your life easier, but also make life easier for the people around you. You might wonder how it makes their life easier, you might not know , but you subconsciously keep obsessing over your haters and cannot stop talking abouy them.
Step 3 : consider them as your fans
Consider your haters as your fans, don't worry about how your haters will react about your present. Live the moment. Act as a celebrity, like how celebs don't care about negative criticism, even you should not. And if you are like me then you might even enjoy the loathing glare haters give you when you pass them, I certainly love the attention.
Step 4 : remember the importance they give you.
Remember when your haters talk bad about you, they took time out of their lives to think about you. Always keep this in mind, the people who talk behind your back are behind you for a reason. You are certainly better than them, your life is certainly more happening than theirs, that is why they are giving off their comments and opinion about it.
Step 5 : Do not be your hater's hater.
Never criticise your haters, because you should not stoop down to their level and do what they do, they don't deserve your attention or time. Do not hate them, use them as your inspiration. Never become a hater, because you don't have to follow their footsteps or the their trodden black path. You don't have to speak about them, you don't have to keep their very blip of an existence in your head. All you should care about is you, yourself and the ones who love you.
