The Cool Kids

Honestly, I just realized that I write a lot about social issues that particularly teenage kids are faced with, and that is merely because, well, lets all admit, we experience way too much to share it all with our parents without the conversation becoming embarrassing. However, you all still need advice, so I am here to provide it. Today I have picked the topic "Cool Kids".

As much as we want to be a part of that group that has it all, cool cars, zillions of friends, great fashion style and amazing personalities. It is only fair that we understand these kids..who ride around on bikes even if they are underage and don't have a license.

A little fact that might burst your bubble, these people are also skin and bone.

To begin with, let me list down all the things positive about these kids.

• First is, their carelessness. These kids never bother of what is happening around them, they are really laid back, with their untied laces, peppermint chewing gum and loose pants and over sized t-shirts.
• Their confidence is the other thing that we love, who does not like confidence, and these people seem to be overflowing with it.
• The clothes, the guys always seem to look like the latest version of Justin Beiber and the girls look like Barbie dolls. And we want to experience that flawlessness.
• We love the fact that everyone knows them and they still have a world of their own. Even though, they don't know everyone who knows them.
• And, frankly speaking we all just want to experience a life that is slightly more than ordinary, that is in the spotlight, that is the center of attraction and that is on everyone lips and a part of everyone's gossip.

But, if I am asked of these people the only thing I will say is that they are brats! They are the most cliche kind of people who are happy when everyone around them is miserable. The only way they can feel good about themselves is by pulling the other kids' confidence down. They are all the same faces and souls. We believe that they stand out, but they really don't. The girls have the same skinniness, long hair, colored lips and the 'mean girl syndrome'. They think that they are socially acceptable if they wear revealing clothes! None of them is single, they all have boyfriends. These girls don't realize that these relationships are the ones that are destined to break. There is no long term stuff happening here. And, the only way you can become this is by knowing a lot of people and being hated by all those who know you.

The guys have the same hair, same sense of fashion, and same obsession with leaning against walls or inanimate objects while they run their fingers through their hair in a vertical motion. It is really frustrating honestly. I think it is some kind of a mental disorder. One more thing, these kids don't understand that they are in school. They are not twenty two, they are in school. These people dress up for every occasion as if they are going to some sort of a club or some pub or some adult place. Girls wear layers of makeup, honestly, I don't even know what their true skin color might me. Either they use the fake tanning products or use fairness creams. 

The worst part is their Instagram feed. Let me tell you, I know this girl who is younger to me who wears red lipstick, posts about winged eyeliner, has a boyfriend and has a picture of herself wearing her inner wear. 

I am also against the fact that to be socially acceptable such as these people you have to wear clothing that is revealing in obscene ways. NEWS FLASH: You are not a super model and don't have to make any public appearances! 

And if you think that these people are confident, then well, they are not, because if they were then, they would not be fidgeting with their clothes and wear them confidently, brands would not matter.  Clothes would be just clothes.

We all should know that there is more to us than the superficial. That people are more that their superficial flaws. Most Importantly, there is no such thing as "Cool Kids". That is a myth.  You are all perfect.

                                                                     

The importance of originality

I know that I am late with my post, and, I will justify it but  not just yet, today I want to talk to all of you about you.

When I said 'you', what did you picture yourself as? Did you think you look like some girl from your class or did yo think you are as smart as the topper of you class? Did those people even come to your mind? I guess not. So why is it that you find yourself comparing your amazing originality to them in any social situation?

I know right now, you are possibly thinking that this is one of those articles that tells you to not compare yourself to others or to love yourself but, it isn't. And I don't plan to make it sound like those articles. I am asking yourself to compare yourself. Compare yourself to that kid who sits alone in the class or the one who is surrounded by a million friends and is still lonely, compare yourself to such people if that is what helps you understand your self worth. 

I want you to get up every morning and examine yourself in the mirror. I want you to look at your eyes and if you are not happy with their hazel color or their brown, then  want you to picture yourself with blue eyes (if that is what you want) and try to picture them turn the breathtaking golden in the sunlight, would they like they do now? I am sure not. I want you to smile at your reflection, not sulk at it. I want you to look at your hair and for once hope it wasn't blonde or brunette, but the color that it is. The color that makes you, you. That gives you your own identity. 

I want you to stop thinking about all those people who you want to look like, and think of what you look like, the same you your family loves and will love even if you dye your hair purple the next day. You don't have to walk like the popular girl or have the same hair as her. You don't have to have the same way of talking, or the same accent because then, what is the difference between her and you? I mean other than the fact that she is an original and you are a copy. 

Why is it that you are trying so hard to look so beautiful? Is it because you want to look good for yourself or is it that you crave attention? Ask yourself this. Does the red lipstick make you look good or are you simply wearing it because the boy you like had a girlfriend who wore that color? I hope it is not the latter. I will be very honest and admit it to all of you, that I honestly used to care a lot about what people think about me. I was not half as lucky as all of you and did not have a good blog article that told me to stop bothering about public opinion and I was merely taught by this teacher I like to call experience. 

And it was only a few days ago that I decided that I am leaving behind public opinion. That I will truly find myself, not by going to some pilgrimage to the Himalayas and chanting but by doing this really simple exercise that includes public opinion. I asked all my friends to describe me in three adjectives and list three things they like and three things that they don't like about me. Honestly, it was to know what others think about me, but as people started replying I noticed that most of the answers, I could not even relate to. There was this one particular answer that caught my eye it said "Who cares?" And this is when I realized that yes, it should not matter, I have to be me, my three adjectives matter not the people who will probably not even be in my life after the next ten years.

I have tried being a lot of different people, tried following in the footsteps,I have followed people blindly like a sheep in order to just "fit in" only to find that there is no particular way to fit in other than being you. Being an original.

I don't know how this may have motivated you but nevertheless I just hope it made you understand your worth. To end let me just quote the internet and say that "An original is worth more than a copy."