When I say typical 'Girl gang' I don't mean your friend circle. There is a difference between being a part of a toxic group of friends and a non toxic group of friends.
So, how do you distinguish between a toxic group and a non toxic group? Well, I will explain to you the structure and functioning of a toxic group so that it is easy for you to avoid.
A toxic group of girls functions in the following way:
It is led by a skinny girl who is in the position of authority because of her appearance, society has taught everyone that the girls who are thin are the only ones who are beautiful, and the blame not only goes to the society but also to Barbie dolls, from a young age girls are taught that Barbie is good at everything because she is thin. This is what settles in our heads, and hence, all the insecurities. And who benefits from our insecurities? The girls who are naturally skinny.
Since they believe that their physical appearance makes them superior to the people around them, it gives them the right to treat people the way they want. And people like me, who are not skinny don't question their authority because we are taught to seek public approval and follow the crowd. These girls think they can have the world but frankly speaking, they just have arrogance.
After this, these girls have their minions, there is also variety in them. These go as follows:
- The average body type: This is the type of the girl who is neither skinny nor plump, but rather healthy and well built, these are the girls that should be worshiped, if that's how the world must function. These girls are only in the group because either they are insecure or like attention. Either ways they are completely brainwashed and of no use.
- Fat girls: These are the optional type, they are only included to make the skinny girls look skinnier. They are not valued otherwise. Their presence does not matter.
This brings me to tell you that why they are included.
Well, the plump girls are treated as court jesters. For the sole cause of entertaining the queen bee, they are used as an extra vote to any decision the skinny alpha makes, they are not allowed to have their own opinion. They should be equipped with a good sense of humor and should be a part of every picture so that the skinny girls look skinnier. The only compliment these girls will ever get is 'cute'.
You see, more the number of plump girls, the skinnier one looks, because people have a horrible habit of comparing. These girls are not people, they are pests; pests that are feeding off of everyone's insecurities. The skinnier one looks, the popular they get. And you know how, well due to compliments like "She is so beautiful, I mean her figure"
And now, let me tell you why it's time to part with this group.
They are using you, whether you are an average or plump girl, the skinny girls use you to look good in public, to look popular, to feel exclusive, like teen royalty.
You don't matter to them, they don't care whether you are upset, you are not allowed to defy their opinion, and your opinion does not matter. And if that does not help in getting a clear picture then, try experimenting.
Their constant presence and need to specify that they are skinny will make you insecure of your own self. You would want to know why they get the attention, and sooner or later you will realize that it's because of their figure, and you would want to be like them, but they won't let you.
You deserve better, even when you try to be like them, they will tell you that they like you they way you are, or it is pointless living for public opinion, which by the way is ironical, because they themselves live for public opinion.
You will soon realize that the friends you have are not because they want to know you better, but because they wanna get closer to the skinny girls, they use you to get closer to the popular girls. Your worth should not be defined by the friends you have.
Your personality matters. and till the time you are part of the group, you won't know what kind of personality you have. You won't know who you are and will constantly have to rely on them. And life is way more than that.
