Well to begin with, your best friends cannot change every day/month/week/year. If someone is your best friend they will remain your best friends as long as the circumstance allows.
I will not say that your best friends are the people who you don't fight with or who doesn't betray you, because they cannot be your best friends if the two of you don't go through rough times and come out of it stronger, if the situation can rip your bond apart then it was never meant to be in the first place.
It is usually a misconception that best friends are the people who make you laugh and keep you happy and always listen to you. But, how can they be termed as your best friends if fake friends also treat you so as well? In my opinion best friends are the people with whom you fight, and fight for you. Who sometimes lie to you and lie for you. They are the people in whom you can confide in. And they are a source of comfort and affection to you. They are the people, whose memories bring tears to your eyes, with whom you share even though the most insignificant moments and still manage to turn them into memories.
Now that, I have given you my opinion, the question is how do you find someone so perfect as mentioned above, and if you did find someone then who is it? Let me help you with the answer.
They are definitely not the people who forget about you, or who never include you.
Not the people who you have minimal conversations with. Not the people whose company makes you feel lonely.
Not even the people who you cannot be on an equal stance with.
It is okay if the two of you are completely different some notable people who have had best friends who are totally different from each other
- Sophie and Agatha from the school for good and evil.
- Jennifer and Needy from Jennifer's body
- Dory and Marlin
- Mike and Sulley from Monsters inc.
The kind of people with whom you share a mutual understanding with and they respect you as much as you respect them.
Sometimes it may take a while to find someone who cares as much. It has happened with me many a times that I sometimes misjudge certain people and they are either not meant for me or we are meant to be together forever.
The bond you share with your best friend is not like any other friendship. Infact I think you just know when you come across certain people that they are meant for you. In my past experiences it has happened that when I come across certain people I just know that we are meant to keep each other's company forever. It is this unique spark that you feel, usually you just know. The first few moments are enough to tell you. But, when you don't feel that spark, it is sometimes necessary to find yourself a best friend , the reason behind this is because human is a social being and needs someone who will look out for him.
The people that you have to find can never be as close to you as your actual best friends, they are more like supplements or Plan B.
You can just spend time with them to fill up the empty holes in you. They can however also be a good source of comfort and support and stand by you. But, there are chances that they may break away from you when faced with a situation where it gets difficult for you to understand each other or if you are faced with fight. Over all friendship is nothing but balance, if you know how much and where you stand, both you and your friend will remain on the same level, no one will be left behind.
And you may also not realise but, you give a part of yourself to your best friend and take a part of them for yourself.
And no matter what type of a best friend you have, I suggest you cherish it as long as it lasts
Lovely article :)
ReplyDeleteYou are my best friend. You fulfill all conditions you mentioned. :P
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