Many of you might think that there is no need to deal with new friends. I mean why should one, they are your friends...
But are you sure? Sometimes when we are new to certain people, we tend to want to know more about them, but believe me, that is not such a good idea. The term 'acquaintance' is very important. One must learn to keep a distance, what many of us don't realise is that while we know more about them, get more familiar with them, we tend to know more of their flaws, sometimes we don't like what we see, sometimes they don't like what they see, because of which you slowly drift away and become practically strangers. Sometimes they are sort of traitors, they betray you and you are left alone, thinking what you did wrong, why did it come to this, but in reality it wasn't your fault. So, I decided to help you to deal with this by giving you a little bit of advice on how to prevent situations like these.
1. Judge.
I know it is not a good habit to judge people, but by judging I don't mean, judge them on the basis of their looks, I mean judge their behaviour, ask yourself, "Do you really enjoy their company?"
If the answer is yes, then pursue them or else, just limit the conversations to simple 'hi' and 'bye'.
Apart from this also judge how much they talk about their other friends, what they say about them, is it something good or bad, because if they talk bad about them what gives the false hope that they won't say something bad about you.
But are you sure? Sometimes when we are new to certain people, we tend to want to know more about them, but believe me, that is not such a good idea. The term 'acquaintance' is very important. One must learn to keep a distance, what many of us don't realise is that while we know more about them, get more familiar with them, we tend to know more of their flaws, sometimes we don't like what we see, sometimes they don't like what they see, because of which you slowly drift away and become practically strangers. Sometimes they are sort of traitors, they betray you and you are left alone, thinking what you did wrong, why did it come to this, but in reality it wasn't your fault. So, I decided to help you to deal with this by giving you a little bit of advice on how to prevent situations like these.
1. Judge.
I know it is not a good habit to judge people, but by judging I don't mean, judge them on the basis of their looks, I mean judge their behaviour, ask yourself, "Do you really enjoy their company?"
If the answer is yes, then pursue them or else, just limit the conversations to simple 'hi' and 'bye'.
Apart from this also judge how much they talk about their other friends, what they say about them, is it something good or bad, because if they talk bad about them what gives the false hope that they won't say something bad about you.
2. Understand
In order to make your friendship work, you are supposed to understand what is expected of you, by which I mean if your new friends don't like certain people, make sure you don't praise those people in front of your friends. Well, that was just an example, there are many more things. Understand their personality and change your behaviour when you are around them, so that you are compatible.
3. Be a listener and talk less
The less information you share, the easier it is to deal with, if things don't workout. Since you would not have shared a lot about yourself, there is no scope for betrayal. Also listening helps in judging the other person. Of course you should talk but don't mention certain things that you would like to keep only to yourself and your best friend.
4. Never give an opinion
Never give an open opinion about anything. No telling what you think about others, no telling what you think about maybe some celebrities, or anything. Just don't give an opinion. Mostly no giving opinions about other people.
5. Lower the sarcasm level
Some people just don't understand sarcasm, and some find it rude, so just as a tip, don't be sarcastic.
6. Always greet them with a smile.
Make them feel comfortable when they talk to you,make them feel like you are interested in listening to them, like they are important to you at the particular time, like you want to know more, make them feel like their presence is valued.
These are a few things that I take care of when I make new friends, but sometimes, I don't follow point number three, which is why I will tell you that it is very, very important. I have spoilt a lot of the 'could-have-been-wonderful' friendships. But, I think if you refer to the points, you will surely make a good first impression on your new friend, and if things work out, then you two could become more than acquaintances and it will give roots to your budding friendship.
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